Remembering The Now
It's so easy to lose The Now. What happened yesterday leaves us feeling behind, so we spend time catching up to a goal we project into tomorrow. Or we congratulate ourselves over yesterday's progress until we forget that today even matters. We fret over tomorrow....
Hurry Up And Feel Busy: The connection between hurrying and busy-ness
When we feel busy, our reaction is often to hurry. We have a lot to do, so we try to speed up accordingly. We try to move faster, think quicker, get stuff done more rapidly. Interestingly, the converse is true too: when we hurry, we tend to feel busy. We're running...
My Mom’s 6 Secrets For Doing Big, Overwhelming, Stuck-Inducing Projects
After moving into my house, there were a lot of boxes to unpack. The sheer number of boxes -- not to mention the quantity of stuff inside the boxes -- was daunting. Day after day, I'd resolve to unpack the boxes. And day after day, I'd sort of wander around amidst the...
Doing It My Way: Where Doing It Right, Doing It Wrong and Frank Sinatra Meet
Some of my best work happens before I know what I'm doing. Since I don't know the "supposed tos," I am free to be natural, enthusiastic, thoroughly me, listening to and acting from gut instinct. As I start picking up all of the Rules and Shoulds and Oughtas, I also...
Are you telling the truth or selling the truth?
We tell the truth we want to believe It's not that we create content with the intention of whitewashing the truth. We just tend to minimize the parts of our experiences that don't align with our beliefs of how things should be or how we see ourselves. It seems like...
Quantity versus Consistency
The right focus isn't quantity versus quality. Quality is assumed. The right focus is on quantity versus consistency. Churning out a dozen top-notch articles in one week won't do you much good if you vanish immediately thereafter and let your blog wither from neglect...
Cheerleaders & Advisors
Cheerleaders are the people we count on to tell us we can do it. Advisors are the people we can count on to tell us whether we should do it. Cheerleaders applaud us for having an idea. Advisors help us examine whether it's an idea worth pursuing. Cheerleaders use a...
Less Domination, More Tea: A Mini-Festo
I don't really have any urge to dominate the world. Domination's great, as long as you're the dominator. But in order to dominate, there has to be someone being dominated. There is no dominator without a corresponding subordinate. Me Conqueror, You Subject. That isn't...
The Best & Worst Things To Do When You’re Overwhelmed
The room may spin. Maybe your palms are a little sweaty. And maybe your breath is even shallow, quicker... Your body's sending signals that it's nervous, perhaps even panicky. It might almost feel like something's bearing down on you. And that something? It's your...
What’s the fritter-to-value ratio?
Every application we use has a fritter-to-value ratio. Some are pretty low, like a (simple, non-graphing) calculator: you push the buttons, you get your answer. Basically no frittering to get the result you want. The fritter-to-value ratio is really low. But then...