Comments on: Living Beyond the Little Right Lies http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies Can-Do-Ology: Business meets Personal, falls in love, has several Stuff That Needs Doing offspring, and goes seeking suitable live-in help. Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:05:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Bobbie Dudley http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-6823 Bobbie Dudley Sun, 30 May 2010 19:20:39 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-6823 If only more than 99 people would read about this.. If only more than 99 people would read about this..

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5074 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 03:04:14 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5074 I just realized I never responded to your comment when you left it--um, whoops much? Oy. Sorry! Thank you so much for the jumping up & down celebration--I absolutely appreciate it! I just realized I never responded to your comment when you left it–um, whoops much? Oy. Sorry!

Thank you so much for the jumping up & down celebration–I absolutely appreciate it!

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5073 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 03:01:03 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5073 It's funny, isn't it, that we often return to a Little Right Lie even after we realize it makes us feel constricted and mediocre... I've definitely done that. (I'm sure I will do that again in the future too!) That damn Good Girl Rule Book certainly makes the rounds. I'm up for a GGRB bonfire... how 'bout you? Let's dump those rules and make some history, shall we? It’s funny, isn’t it, that we often return to a Little Right Lie even after we realize it makes us feel constricted and mediocre… I’ve definitely done that. (I’m sure I will do that again in the future too!) That damn Good Girl Rule Book certainly makes the rounds. I’m up for a GGRB bonfire… how ’bout you? Let’s dump those rules and make some history, shall we?

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5072 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:58:31 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5072 Haha! No spying involved, Elizabeth! Though--wow, yes--I completely relate to that Little Right Lie: "I can't do that until I've read the book, taught the class & had someone else tell me I'm an expert in it." Oh yeah. You've definitely got the right attitude: embrace the not-knowing. After all, that's the spirit that leaves your path open to all kinds of discoveries and intriguing side journeys that we'd miss if we were always charging forward with utmost certainty. Here's to meeting up on a side road sometime soon! :) Haha! No spying involved, Elizabeth!

Though–wow, yes–I completely relate to that Little Right Lie: “I can’t do that until I’ve read the book, taught the class & had someone else tell me I’m an expert in it.” Oh yeah.

You’ve definitely got the right attitude: embrace the not-knowing. After all, that’s the spirit that leaves your path open to all kinds of discoveries and intriguing side journeys that we’d miss if we were always charging forward with utmost certainty.

Here’s to meeting up on a side road sometime soon! :)

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5071 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:51:33 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5071 When I started admitting out loud that I don't always do for myself that which I do <i>fabulously well</i> for my clients, what I discovered--to my delight and surprise--was that almost everyone I encountered said the same thing. (And usually said it with some sigh of relief that they weren't the only ones!) I think that doing for others what we're not great at doing for ourselves is really, <i>really</i> common. So if you relate to that, you're in great company! When I started admitting out loud that I don’t always do for myself that which I do fabulously well for my clients, what I discovered–to my delight and surprise–was that almost everyone I encountered said the same thing. (And usually said it with some sigh of relief that they weren’t the only ones!)

I think that doing for others what we’re not great at doing for ourselves is really, really common. So if you relate to that, you’re in great company!

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5069 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:46:17 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5069 No problem--I fixed it so that the funky coding went away! No problem–I fixed it so that the funky coding went away!

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5068 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:44:57 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5068 I suspect that the project manager thing is a little bit of both, actually... I added it to my "Not my speciality rundown" section after having several instances where someone was looking for a "Project Manager" and what they were seeking was very... corporate, for lack of a better word, and didn't align well with what I did. But "Project Manager" is how they defined it. And after a few of those, I decided, "Well, I guess I must not be a 'Project Manager,'" and added that to that section. But perhaps the Little Right Lie in that would be me telling myself that I'm not a Project Manager, when the truth is maybe more that I'm not <i>what those folks saw as being</i> a Project Manager. Hmmm... I'm percolating on this one. I'm glad you called me out! I think you illuminated a possible perspective I wasn't seeing. Which is awesome. Thank you! I suspect that the project manager thing is a little bit of both, actually… I added it to my “Not my speciality rundown” section after having several instances where someone was looking for a “Project Manager” and what they were seeking was very… corporate, for lack of a better word, and didn’t align well with what I did. But “Project Manager” is how they defined it. And after a few of those, I decided, “Well, I guess I must not be a ‘Project Manager,’” and added that to that section.

But perhaps the Little Right Lie in that would be me telling myself that I’m not a Project Manager, when the truth is maybe more that I’m not what those folks saw as being a Project Manager.

Hmmm… I’m percolating on this one. I’m glad you called me out! I think you illuminated a possible perspective I wasn’t seeing. Which is awesome.

Thank you!

]]> By: Marissa http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5067 Marissa Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:40:42 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5067 Spectacular! I'm thinking t-shirts & bumper stickers that proclaim "No creativity squelched in the name of money." Because that's a sentiment I can get behind. Also, I will "Me Too" your Little Right Lie about needing to please everyone. That LRL and I are far too familiar with one another. I have to dispell it for myself on a regular basis. So glad you stopped by & so glad you joined the conversation! Thank you! Spectacular! I’m thinking t-shirts & bumper stickers that proclaim “No creativity squelched in the name of money.” Because that’s a sentiment I can get behind.

Also, I will “Me Too” your Little Right Lie about needing to please everyone. That LRL and I are far too familiar with one another. I have to dispell it for myself on a regular basis.

So glad you stopped by & so glad you joined the conversation! Thank you!

]]> By: Kim http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5057 Kim Mon, 22 Mar 2010 23:03:36 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5057 Love this! Yes, the "little right lies" are often what hold me back. Trying to be the good girl, & do the right thing, isn't always the right thing. Listening to intuition often contradicts my "good girl rule book" When I live this, I seem to attract the best clients. When I don't, I seem to get on my nerves, get boxed into a role & feel mediocre. as the t-shirt says: "Well Behaved Women Rarely Make History" Love this! Yes, the “little right lies” are often what hold me back. Trying to be the good girl, & do the right thing, isn’t always the right thing. Listening to intuition often contradicts my “good girl rule book”
When I live this, I seem to attract the best clients. When I don’t, I seem to get on my nerves, get boxed into a role & feel mediocre.
as the t-shirt says: “Well Behaved Women Rarely Make History”

]]> By: Elizabeth Cottrell http://marissabracke.com/living-beyond-the-little-right-lies/comment-page-1#comment-5053 Elizabeth Cottrell Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:48:14 +0000 http://marissabracke.com/?p=1235#comment-5053 You must have been spying on me to have uncovered so many of my own little Right Lies, one of the most insidious of which is that I can't start something unless I know/understand/have mastered it first. Yikes. Now instead of just saying I don't know what I want to be when I grow up, I'll just proudly say, "I don't know everything yet, but I'm headed in the right direction and enjoying the journey!" Thank you for helping us realize this is Truth, not just an excuse. You must have been spying on me to have uncovered so many of my own little Right Lies, one of the most insidious of which is that I can’t start something unless I know/understand/have mastered it first. Yikes. Now instead of just saying I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, I’ll just proudly say, “I don’t know everything yet, but I’m headed in the right direction and enjoying the journey!” Thank you for helping us realize this is Truth, not just an excuse.

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