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The Seven Dwarves of Social Media

by Marissa on 18 December 2009

in Life Online

Suppose Snow White’s produce-induced slumber lasted long enough to bring her from little-cottage-in-the-forest to profile-in-the-social-media-expanse. Accustomed as she is to identifying her companions by their most easily-recognizable traits, what floppy-hatted friends she might encounter in today’s online landscape?

1. Bizzy

Bizzy’s Tweets are usually about how much he has going on, and how he’s terribly overwhelmed by it all. He rarely talks about the fruits of his busy-ness, though, largely because the only thing all of his blustering about being busy seems to produce is… more blustering about being busy.
Known for: Having the most jam-packed days and anxiety-ridden sleepless nights, but never actually getting much accomplished.
Strength: Always on the move.
Weakness: Never getting anywhere.

2. Dizzy

Dizzy knows only enough about social media to be completely bamboozled. Apt to purchase every “How To” seminar, e-book and teleclass on the market. Dizzy doesn’t necessarily lack in smarts, but in focus and willingness to stick to one thing long enough to get a solid footing. He becomes the Tazmanian Devil of social media: spinning around in so many directions at the same time that he essentially creates nothing more than havoc.
Known for: Being a goldmine for how-to authors.
Strength: Rampant eagerness to “get it.”
Weakness: Appetite for “getting it” totally overwhelms actual ability to figure anything out.

3. Snarky

Snarky can find the humor–or at least the razor’s edge between wit and bad taste–in any situation. Views social media as a stage, and the world, his stand-up routine’s audience. Likely died a little inside when Favrd went away.
Known for: Having “LOL” and “Too soon!” show up largely in his Tweetcloud.
Strength: Easily ReTweetable; says what the rest of us chuckle at but wouldn’t actually say in our own status updates.
Weakness: Great garnish to other content, but difficult to be a main course of snark alone.

4. Cloney

When in doubt, be someone else. Cloney finds the best parts of everyone else’s identity, and parrots them. When writing his social media profiles, his main source of information is someone else’s profile. His about page sounds eerily like… your about page. What you Tweet about, so too does Cloney Tweet about, often without changing the wording much.
Known for: Mining your friends/followers list.
Strength: Highly advanced mimicry.
Weakness: No perceptible personality of his own.

5. Needy

The air of desperation is Needy’s oxygen tank. He longs to be in the Inner Circle, and is perpetually convinced that he isn’t (and that everyone else is). He will buy your product, RT your musings, become your Facebook Fan and join your membership site, all in an unbridled quest for acceptance. Prolific in forum posts and long email missives, Needy is fundamentally unable to function without someone else telling him how to do so and reassuring him that he’s liked.
Known for: Filling up your email inbox (or Tweetstream, or Facebook wall) with pleas for attention. “Meaning well.”
Strength: Persistent. Very, very persistent.
Weakness: Tendency to drive his targets of attention completely batshit crazy.

6. Boastful

Whatever you can do, Boastful can do better–and has. Boastful is great at letting the social media world know about his accomplishments. Of course, being the Most Awesome At Everything leaves little time to be concerned about anyone else; fortunately, Boastful is the Very Best at completely disregarding everyone around him. And isn’t afraid to say so. Considers it a personal interaction when he ReTweets someone’s compliment of him.
Known for: Proudly declaring that he does not follow anyone on Twitter, does not respond to anyone’s email, and cannot be bothered with your interview requests, all because he’s just too busy Being Awesome.
Strength: Letting others know about his strengths.
Weakness: Stark lack of meaningful interaction with others, including those hungrily following Boastful’s advice on How To Be As Awesome As Me.

7. Sunny

From The Secret to the Have A Nice Day bumper sticker, Sunny’s world is nothing if not optimistic. Having never encountered a silver lining he didn’t love profusely, Sunny is the first to tell you how great life is–all. the. time.
Known for: Chirping merrily about… everything. Constantly.
Strength: Always sees the bright side.
Weakness: Obliviously unaware that there is a downside or weakness to anything, and sure to chirp merrily at you, should you choose to acknowledge or react to one.

Do you know these dwarves?

Which of these dwarves have you encountered in your social (media) circle? Which ones did I miss?

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My uncle Paul (my Dad’s bro) plays rhythm guitar in a rock cover band called Liberty’s Teeth. And they’re pretty fantastic.

My dad & his brother Paul

The band is often booked to play at bars and nightclubs, though they also have several bookings for weddings and parties too. I got to see them play for the first time at an outdoor festival, the Lake Villa Celebration of Summer, this past weekend.

And I realized, as I watched them play and watched the audience dancing and clapping and enjoying themselves, that there were some pretty powerful lessons being taught at that concert that were applicable to online businesses in general.

Don’t hold back the good stuff

The band kicked off their performance with high-energy, highly-recognizable songs that bridged the many age ranges at the festival. They didn’t build up to the highlight songs or bookend them with slower or less recognizable tunes. It was immediate high-energy that lasted the entire performance. They grabbed the audience’s attention by starting with the good stuff, and they made sure there was no time to lose interest or get bored by continuing to deliver audience-pleasing tunes.

wally, marc & paul

Take away: Don’t “warm up” on your blog or in your teleclass. Lead off with heavy-hitting material. Make your first point or headline be one that people will remember at the end of the session or blog post. Don’t save the “good stuff” for later–and don’t vamp. The audience knows vamping when they see or hear it, and it comes off as stalling. Just jump into your first big hit, and use the momentum from that to carry you into your second, and your third, and your fourth…

If you’ve got an unexpected influx of new audience members, either red-velvet-rope them off, or adapt & welcome them in.

Liberty’s Teeth often plays at bars, nightclubs, and parties where the front row is populated by adults dancing to the songs.

But the Celebration of Summer festival provided a different front-row population: young kids. A lot of young kids.

Now, the band could have played for their usual audience, and let the kids dance as they may. They could have red-velvet-roped off the kids to play more directly to their usual audience of adults.

But instead, the lead singer started inviting the enthusiastic kids on stage to dance alongside him. He held the mic down to them so they could belt out a chorus with him. And they loved it.

Liberty's Teeth & dancers

And more than that, their parents and their grandparents loved it. Parents and grandparents that maybe weren’t huge fans of the exact songs being played at that moment were suddenly huge fans of the band, because the band was engaging their kids and grandkids and making them the co-stars of the performance. Suddenly, moms were up front taking pictures. Grandpas were clapping along.

The band still could’ve had a great show if they’d red-velvet-roped the kids and played to the adults. But because they chose to adapt to their new audience and integrate them into the show, they wound up reaching people that might not have been intrigued by the performance alone (or who couldn’t have been intrigued by the performance alone because they would’ve had to have been chasing after their kids rather than watching them perform with the band).

Liberty’s Teeth got a whole new set of fans — of all ages — due to their ability to quickly adapt to their audience.

Liberty's Teeth with their young fans

Liberty's Teeth with their young fans

Take away: Know your core audience. But also know that there will be times when adapting to a new audience, or a wider audience, will not only expand the reach of your message but might also further engage your core audience in a new and memorable way. Don’t be afraid of expanding your own velvet rope once in a while.

Give the people what they want, even if it seems routine to you

Sweet Child O’ Mine. Born to Be Wild. All Right Now. Somebody Told Me. Mustang Sally.

You know that the band has played every single one of those songs about a hundred times before. Some of those tunes probably sound pretty routine to them by now.

But to the audience, those songs are the ones that get people up out of their chairs and dancing around. They’re the ones we sing along to because we know the words–or, at least, the chorus!–by heart. They’re the songs the audience wants to hear, even if the band has heard them over and over and over again.

Liberty’s Teeth is good enough that they could play a bunch of original tunes and sound awesome doing it. But the crowd engages with them because they get the familiar tunes they know and love. The audience leaves the venue talking about how awesome the band was–not because the band was contributing something brand new to the world of music, but because the band was delivering what the audience wanted.

Take away: Deliver the goods the audience wants, even if they aren’t the goods that seem novel and wowing to you. You can always work in a novel idea or random tangential musing, just like the band can always work in an original song here and there. Your audience will continue jamming along with you into unknown territory if you provide them with the stuff the expect and clamor for along the way.

Get in the audience and watch your own show.

All three guitarists in Liberty’s Teeth have wireless transmitters for their electric guitars, which allow them to hop off the stage and mosey into the audience. Which they do. And which is really, really awesome. One minute, you’re singing your heart out to Mustang Sally (while standing next to your mums whose name actually is Sally), and the next minute the guitarist from the band is playing the song right next to you.

Paul demonstrates audience interaction

Coming off the stage and into the audience lets the band members engage with the audience members in a way that they simply cannot do from the stage. They can dance with them (and they do). They can check out the sound the audience is getting from different points in the crowd and make adjustments as necessary (and they do). They can directly connect with people who wouldn’t otherwise feel a strong connection to the music, but suddenly feel like they’re an integral part of the show (and they do).

The band members are the stars when they’re on the stage, but when they’re in the audience, they’re almost hard to spot–no spotlights, no wires, just them in the midst of a crowd of people.

But the ironic part is that’s when they’re the most visible, because people love having them mingle with them while they’re playing (if for no other reason than marveling at how they can keep right on playing a tune while carrying on a conversation with an audience member). The teens loved dancing with the lead guitarist while he played. My dad got a huge kick out of having his picture taken with his brother while Paul played on.

The audience was so intently focused on the musicians while they mingled in the crowd that even without the stage lights and elevation, they were noticed and appreciated very tangibly.

Take away: Surf your own website sometimes. See what it is your audience is seeing, from their perspective. Is your message coming through as clearly as you want it to? Do you need to make some sound adjustments? And hang out with your audience where they are: in your comments, on other blogs, on Twitter, or in person. Notice how much more visible you become when you hop off the stage and mingle in the audience!

Final takeaway: Liberty’s Teeth rocks.

Thank you for a GREAT show. I can’t wait to rock with you again soon!
Check out the Liberty’s Teeth website

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It Starts Today

by Marissa on 24 November 2008

in Life Online, News & Announcements

After a few months of absence and tweaks and reworkings… I’m back, baby!

And as if he was on my wavelength (or me on his, or possibly both, in a very Being John Malkovich way), Chris Brogan posted about what he’d do if he started today.

Riffing off of Chris’s post, here’s what I’ve been up to, and here’s where we’re going… starting today!


Step 1: Listening

  • Chris writes: “Listening is my first move… go and read the blogs that are out there. Read from different genres. … [S]tart listening to the conversations that are out there.
  • My journey: My biggest blogging boom came as a law student. I’m not a law student anymore, and I’m not even at the place where I would’ve guessed I’d be, had you asked me during those law school years where I saw myself two or three years out. I’m somewhere totally unexpected.

    My blogging needed to catch up with my life.

    So I took some time out to listen what was making me spin with excitement, get jazzed about my days, and spark heaps of creative outbursts. I found whole new neighborhoods in the blogosphere and became a regular reader and erstwhile commenter. I explored more social media than you can throw a terabyte at, and learned how they all work together and the strengths of each.

    I went into my researcher mode, and listened to where I am now, as an attorney, computer whisperer, strategic can-do-ologist–and, of course, a perpetual Curious George.

Step 2: Blogging

  • Chris writes: “No matter what, the very first piece of social media real estate I’d start with is a blog.”
  • My blogs: I’ve gotten domains for my blogs and redesigned their layouts. I’ve been busy collecting ideas for content and usability. My job, just like my personality, is multi-faceted, and my websites reflect that. One is dedicated to my legal services. One is dedicated to my quote collection. One proclaims the spirit of Strategic Can-Do-Ology: “Professional. Efficient. Human.” And Daily Struggles is where all of the hodgepodge comes to play, from work-related to pictures of my beloved dogs.

Step 3: Outposts

  • Chris writes: “I’d build outposts which help me reach into lots of different places and communicate with people where they might be. Depending on my needs, I might use different tools. At the very minimum, I’d start accounts on Twitter, LinkedIn, [and] Facebook.”
  • My outposts: You can find me on the “Big Three” Chris mentioned (follow me on Twitter, connect with me on LinkedIn, and friend me on Facebook). I’ve also been establishing a presence on some other social media, including Diigo, StumbleUpon, Plurk and Digg–along with a slew of others. Each provides a different way of interacting with others, and a different sphere of people with whom to interact.

Steps 4 & 5: Audience & Experiment

  • Chris writes: “Once you have a primary place to express yourself (your blog), and a few outposts where you can communicate in a less structured, more real time way (outposts), the next [thing] I would do is find like minds. … Experiment. Try new things. … You learn by doing, not reading.”
  • My take: I’ve got the structures in place now, and I’m ready to reconnect with my Daily Struggles audience (hello, returning readers!) and to reach out to some additional folks that I’ve met along the journey. As for trying new things? C’mon… remember, I’ve got that Curious George streak. It’s a no-brainer.


And I am so flattered, excited, and happy-happy-joy-joy-ing to have all of you reading this along for the ride. Please always feel free to leave comments or send me an email. I promise, every single one gets read and pondered.

IT STARTS TODAY!

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Domain Mapping, CNAME, MX Records, GoDaddy, Blogger –oh my!

May 22, 2008 Life Online

I mapped a domain today and configured email for that domain. I feel brilliant! It is a new step in Geekdom for me. I’m so proud.
I did not, however, accomplish this feat by myself. I had help from a slew of forum posts, Help entries, web articles, guesses of my own, [...]

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How To Map Your Custom Domain, Step 1: Configuring GoDaddy (CNAME Records)

May 22, 2008 Life Online

Note: This how-to assumes you already registered a domain through GoDaddy.com. If you have not registered a domain, you’ll need to do so before proceeding.

Log into your account at GoDaddy.
Under “My Products” in the left-hand menu, select Domain Manager.
Click the name of the domain you want to map.
Click the “Total DNS Control and MX [...]

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How To Map Your Custom Domain, Step 2: Configuring Blogger (Publishing settings)

May 22, 2008 Life Online

Have you configured your CNAME record at GoDaddy?

Log in to your blogger account.
Go to the “Settings” link for your blog.
Click on “Publishing” under the Settings tab.
Click on the “Custom Domain” link (probably in small print near the top)
Enter the name of your domain in the box provided. (The http:// will be filled in for [...]

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How To Configure Your Custom Domain Email, Step 1: Signing Up for Google Apps

May 22, 2008 Life Online

Have you configured your CNAME records?
Have you configured blogger’s publishing settings?

Go to Google Apps.

Click on the blue box (on the right-hand side) that says “Compare Editions and Sign Up.”
Click on the “Sign Up” button under the Standard Edition package (it’s free).
If you’re the Administrator of the domain, click the Administrator radio button.
Enter your [...]

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How To Configure Your Custom Domain Email, Step 2: Running an NSLookup

May 22, 2008 Life Online

Have you configured your CNAME records?
Have you configured blogger’s publishing settings?
Have you signed up for Google Apps?

Wait a few minutes after making the change at GoDaddy.
Then go to Kloth.Net.
In the “Domain” box, enter the odd-looking string google gave you followed by your domain name (e.g., googleffffffffexample3.customdomain.com).
Leave the Server to whatever it defaults to (e.g., “localhost”).
Select [...]

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